"You’ve got a new boyfriend? OH MY GAH I’M SO HAPPIE FOR YEW! So, are you the man or the woman in the relationship?"
Hearing the above question makes me want to throw a defenceless baby against a wall. Heterosexual couples are NOT the template for a relationship. Admittedly there will most probably be one who’ll play the dominant role and one who’ll play the passive role - that said, DEFAULTS DON’T EXIST.
We are TWO MEN in a relationship.
If I wanted to be “the man”, I’d date a woman.
If I wanted to be “the woman”, I’d donate my penis to the less fortunate and get a fucking sex change.
Above all, relationships where one partner’s needs are seen as more important than the other’s are bound to fail.